Monday 29 August 2016

The Value Of A Life

I’ve been lately thinking about my life’s time, all the things I’ve done and how it’s been. And I can’t help believing in my own mind, I know I’m gonna hate to see it end.

                  Poems, Prayers and promises
                           John Denver

I have been thinking lately; about life and friends and family, about the things I have done and I how I arrived at the place in life that I am in and about the life I have ahead of me. One which I see as a full and happy life along a journey that I hope I will take with many of those friends and those of my family who mean so much to me.

I recently spent time with many of the family who over the years have come to be the most important people in my life. We spent time with those who we only see sometimes once in every couple of years due to the fact that we moved to England in 2004 and they all live in America. I spent time with my son and his family and with my wife and her family. My daughter Erin who is now a young woman but who will always be my little girl managed to pull off a small family reunion on a glorious day in the park, by the lake, a lake that has come to mean so much to me and one which holds wonderful memories from thirty years ago. My son is now reaching his 30th year and there is talk of he and Katie starting family.

This wonderful time was sadly marked on the last day by the news of the death of a friend. A tragic and wasteful loss of life due to driving accident.

There are mileposts in our life that have a lasting impression for different reasons and this one is one of those. 

Dave was only 47 and, by todays standards barely into his life. I met him at The National Conservatory Of Dramatic Arts, in Washington DC more than twenty years ago along with several other people who have come to mean so much to me. Most of us have not seen each other in the same twenty years however they had a lasting impact on my life. I have kept in touch with a few, but not enough and time has moved on for all of us. We all started at this small Acting School in the basement of a Church (As many seem to be) with one thing in common; Dreams. We all had a Dream, some of Acting, some of Teaching, some of a life behind the Scenes, but we all had dreams.


Those dreams ended abruptly for Dave and it jarred the hearts of those who new him, friends and family who he left behind. There will be forever those things that were never said because we can say them the next time we see each other, questions about what we might achieve with a life, a gift that we have that we can do so much with, how we might affect other people and give them the inspiration to reach for their dreams and in turn they may go on to inspire yet others, sadly this life will never see out it’s full potential and others will live their life with many questions.

Our hearts went out to those in his family who will miss him the most.